Dating and loving

But if you continue developing the relationship, 6 months from now, you may also agree that God is leading you into this relationship. Don’t make a snap decision, and don’t condemn her for the sense she has that God has led her to you.

: Typically you don’t continue dating very long unless you have some idea that this might be the person you want to marry.

After 30, 35, 40, the differences are not as important or prevalent.

So, while I don’t think there’s any arbitrary answer to this question, I would say that I think you set yourself up for problems if you’re 16 and marrying someone whose 30.

Are you working through the struggles that might be there with your family and extended family?

I wrote a book called Christi and I maintain a date night once a week.

I do think you need to give it significant time, however.

Are you being honest with each other about your background?If a person can’t grow in these areas before marriage, then they’re not going to grow in them after marriage.So these are the kind of things that need to be settled before you get married. Did they have a problem with alcohol, drugs or other addictive ? Don’t let the “in love” experience blind you to the truth. We often reach back and bring the fears of that past relationship into the new relationship.Before you marry, you had best find out what your potential souse was like before the two of you “fell in love.” Ask parents, siblings, work associates and friends, but by all means ask them questions. And you say to this new person, “Here’s what I’m feeling, here’s what I’m fearing.I don’t want to bring that into our relationship and put that between us.

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